When it comes to sex the focus is generally on the organs and assorted parts associated with it; the penis, the vagina, the clitoris, the anus, the g-spot et al. I happen to think there is one very important erogenous zone that is ignored and perhaps a little taken for granted – the brain.
First of all I say it is taken for granted because the brain really is the reason we can have a sexual response at all due to the fact it’s the control centre of the body. The penis and vagina (and associated parts) get all the glory while the brain is just sitting there, unappreciated and taken for granted. But the brain itself is more than just a control centre – it is a huge erogenous zone, a zone full of often untapped, pleasurable, orgasmic potential.
Being in a long distance relationship for 12 months is possibly why I am so aware of the erogenous potential of the brain. For those 12 months most of the sex we had was via the phone so a big part of what we had to do was talk dirty. We had to verbally make one another horny and help the other to orgasm through use of our voices. We’d tell each other what we would be doing if we were together right that moment, we would make up stories, we would do whatever felt right in the moment, just as we would if we were having ‘real’ sex. Fingers or vibrators were always part of this equation… until this one night.
For whatever reason my wife didn’t touch herself when I was making up a naughty story and before long she was moaning like she would if physical stimulation was involved. I kept talking, she kept moaning, the story got dirtier, the moaning got louder and soon enough my story and wife met a climax at the same time. We laughed, astonished that she had had an orgasm without any physical stimulation involved. I presumed it was a one off, a rare once-in-a-lifetime kind of feat. I loved that I was wrong!
When we were finally living together I told her a story one night and again the hands-free-pleasure related moaning began. I watched and spoke, she moaned and soon came.
After that I decided my wife either had magical powers or that perhaps she had a pair of invisible arms. Neither would have surprised me.
Then it happened to me!
Only three days ago we were driving back from the beach. The kids were in the back with our friend who is visiting, they were chatting amongst theselves and so were we. My wife teasingly mentioned a photograph of a man I think is particulary divine that we’d seen on Instagram a couple of days earlier, the idea of a threesome was suggested and next thing I knew the walls of my vagina were tensing up like they do when we are fooling around in bed. This image she conjured up kept building and as it built so did that feeling of pre-orgasm inside me. Usually when I get this tight feeling because I’m turned on, it disappears after a few seconds, but this time it did the opposite.
It got to the point I was gripping my wife’s thigh tightly, trying my hardest not to let out the moan that was so perilously close to escaping. Every now and then she’d quietly add to the story, nothing dirty, just suggestive little words of encouragement that to anyone listening would have sounded innocent. She knew what she was doing though and eventually I found myself digging my fingers into her thigh as an orgasm exploded, from seemingly nowhere. I had to be silent and it was bloody hard… driving at the same time was also that would probably be considered ill-advised, but I really had no control over the way my body – or more accurately my brain – had reacted.
Moral of the story (besides me boasting about the awesomely unexpected orgasm I had!), test your brain! Test the brain of your lover-type-person! Use dirty talk, use naughty stories, think outside the box and come up with ways to test out the erogenous potential of your brain, or brains you have at your disposal (okay, that sounds kind of morbid… but you know what I mean!)